Electronic flower bouquet, you ask?

If you are anything like me, my wife loves getting flowers, but right now, that just isn’t a good use of the limited resources in our house. She is a grown up and understands how things are, but that doesn’t change what she likes. It doesn’t change that she wants to be loved and if I were aware of her needs, I would pay more attention to meeting them.

Here is what you do. Go to google.com and do an image search for her favorite flowers. My wife loves roses and gerbera daisies. Find a picture of a really cool arrangement. In this case price is no object, so find the picture of the most expensive arrangement you can find. Click on the image so that it shows up on a separate page. Now right click on the image, and pick “Copy” or “Copy Image” depending on your web browser.

Next go to your email program and create a new message. Address the message to your wife’s cell phone as a picture message. My provider is Verizon, so the address is xxxxxxxxxx@vzwpix.com. The x’s is her phone number without any dashes. If your provider is AT&T, then the address is xxxxxxxxxx@mms.att.net. Sprint’s is xxxxxxxxxx@pm.sprint.com, T-Mobile’s is xxxxxxxxxx@tmomail.net.

In the subject line, type “Just thinking about you, I love you”, or something that she will recognize as you. In the body of the message, just paste in the picture that you copied. Then click send.

That’s all there is to it. Now, you do have to have a cell phone plan that will accept picture messages, but most plans will let you do it in a messaging plan. Even if you don’t have a messaging plan, it will probably only cost you a quarter.

Now I know that you are thinking what a stupid thing this is to do. It isn’t like you sent real flowers. She can’t smell them, and she can’t show her friends what a great husband you are. So what good is it?

My friend, I hope you don’t think that. You see, the big secret of getting love from your wife back in return is if she thinks that you thought of her. She didn’t remind you about anything. You just sent her a little message out of the blue. It doesn’t matter what stage your relationship is in right now, whether your marriage is on the rocks, or if everything is going great. Your wife needs you to think about her for no reason at all. She needs to be loved.

I can’t afford to send flowers to my wife that often, but there is something magical about sending electronic flowers every so often for no reason at all. It only takes a minute, and the investment will be of infinate value when you get home. Trust me on this one.

Do it right now. Don’t wait. If, like me, you need to be reminded of things like this, set an alarm in your phone to remind you periodically.

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When I finished reading, I was convinced that this was essential information for couples who are serious about solving their marital difficulties, and I don’t just mean young couples either. I found that no matter what your marriage situation is, young or old, no matter how many years you’ve been married, there are tips that can help everyone to develop sound communication and conflict resolution techniques.

My first impression of the course was how well laid out it is. One of the problems with ebooks is that sometimes the writer of the book is writing for a paper format which sometimes makes it difficult to read on your computer screen. But in this book the layout was professionally done, and easy to read whether I wanted to print it out or not. I’m confident that I have purchased a professional course that takes both me and my marriage seriously.

The book contains both theory and examples in the form of exercises which is how I personally learn better. Don’t get me wrong, theory is important, but seeing the theory applied makes it much easier to apply it in my own life.

Nobody said marriage was ever going to be easy, but the problem is that even if you knew that in your head before you got married, you were probably unprepared, as I was, to how it would feel to have marital problems. The cliche easier said than done comes to mind. Just remember that it’s perfectly normal in a marriage to have disagreements and issues to deal with that sometime take a little more effort than you thought. In an ideal world we would sit and talk about these changes and differences in a calm and rational manner, and establish an outcome and move on. Unfortunately, it doesn’t quite work that way in real life. What happens is that we can get caught up in the moment and then things tend to deteriorate to the point where you are both wondering why you are still here.

Amy has developed a course that encourages couples to reverse that deterioration and develop ways to interact and strengthen their failing marriage.  Some of the topics that she deals with are:

• Tips on how to rescue your marriage
• How to reintroduce passion
• How to repair your marriage after an affair
• Self assessment
• Gestures that are more important than words
• And much, much more….

In this book, Amy is able to identify where you have been going wrong, and then show you how to avoid crucial mistakes that actually jeopardize your chances of saving your marriage.

One other thing that impressed me is the amount of information contained in the book, not only in the two main Save My Marriage Today ebooks, but also the accompanying bonus ebooks as well. All together,  it is one of the most comprehensive marriage saving courses I have seen assembled!

With over 2 million divorces every year, many of those could have been avoided if those couples would have learned and applied the techniques that Amy shows in her course. I’m sure that there are marriages that she can’t work miracles for, but if you are serious about resurrecting the love you once had for your spouse and saving your marriage, you should do everything that you can to read and apply the relationship advice that Amy has to offer.

If it helps, Amy includes a free email consultation so that customers can discuss any specific problems or questions about the course that haven’t understood or that might be missing.

I really do believe Amy has latched on to a good thing here, and she really can help you save your marriage!
The techniques she reveals are thought provoking and have been proven over and over to help save marriages. I was very impressed when I finished reading this material and have recommended it to everyone I know.

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All the best,

Dave

Communication issues are a fact of married life and the sooner you learn that, the better off you and your spouse will be. Most times people gloss over this because we hear and say it so often. But communication is more than just getting your point across. It also includes being loving and empathetic as well. Your spouse should be one of your best friends and most friends that I have would help me with anything. If your friend needed you, would they ask? If not, how would you help them.

When you got married, you probably didn’t consider that you were entering into a business relationship. But that is what it is, and if you don’t treat that part of your marriage like a business contract, then you will have problems. Money is one of the issues that can really hurt your friendship and cause all kinds of other side effects that you didn’t anticipate. Commit right now to deal with the business part of your marriage correctly. Also, don’t go backwards and dredge all the old stuff up. Start today and move forward.

Intimacy issues in marriage are relatively common at least to some degree. This is primarily because both of you live different lives and there are times when it is hard to come together when we are most vulnerable. The best way to deal with this is to practice your communication skills. Again, it is more than talking and listening, it’s also reading body language. One other thing about intimacy is that we tend to get our feelings hurt more easily in this area than in other parts of our married lives. Try to be understanding of our spouse, and don’t get your feelings hurt. I know, it’s harder said than done, but I know that you can do it.

Since issues in your marriage can lead to other problems and potentially damage your relationship, you need to work on them. And when I say work, I mean it in every sense of the word, because it is hard to do this. Be patient with yourself and your spouse because neither of you will be perfect as you work on this. And it will be a lifetime task because as you get older and more mature, you’ll have different experiences that will impact your life.

If you really need further help than what I’ve discussed, please seek out help. There is nothing more fulfilling than having a great marriage. However, there is nothing more frustrating and discouraging than having a crappy one full of marriage issues.

Want some more help? For free?, then you should check out my friend Mort Fertel’s Free 7 Secrets to Fixing Your Marriage. Did I say it was free?

When you take out all the fluff, the bottom line is that you must sort out the root causes of your disagreements. Also, you must learn how to better communicate and be taught how to deal with some issues that will always be. The truth is that there are some issues in your marriage that will never be resolved. The key is to learn how to work around what you can’t change.

As I mentioned, While you honestly identify what is causing your marriage problems, you need to work on the things that you personally can change. Remember that while you can influence your spouse to change, you can’t force it. If you try to force it, then it will backfire on you.

Learning to communicate with your partner is essential to the success of your marriage. Now, when I say communicate, you must not fall in to the trap of confusing that with talking with your partner. Communication is not talking. Talking is something that we do with our mouths only. Communication is something that we do with our whole body. We talk, listen, feel, wink, smile, have tantrums, as so forth. All of those things communicate. So if you think that communication means you need to learn to talk better, or get your point across, then you missed the most important factors of communication. Now don’t me wrong, it seems easy as you read this, but you know deep down that it is hard to do in real life. That means that your are going to have to practice at this, and you will still make mistakes. But don’t give up.

At some point you may wonder if it is even worth getting help with marriage problems. I recently read a study in which they interviewed couples who were considering divorce. They then re interviewed them 5 years later. Many of the couple had decided to stay married, and some had divorced. The conclusion of the study was that the people who stayed married ended up happier after 5 years than the couples who had divorced. It didn’t mean that everything was wonderful, because it wasn’t. However, overall staying married with your spouse will likely mean that you will be happier with your own life than if you divorce.

Failures and mistakes are not unique to you since everyone experiences those same things, especially those who need help with marriage problems. However, if you think that marriage problems are a necessary part of a marriage, then you are on the wrong road, and you need to make a u-turn right now. Having marriage problems is not in and of itself the problem since everyone has them from time to time. But you can’t stick you head in the sand and ignore problems. Like I said before, it doesn’t mean everything will be resolved, but you can work with issues in your marriage if you are communicating and working on the things that you can change.

You must do all you can to prevent your marriage from being crushed by unresolved problems by staying committed to your spouse. And if you need additional help, then don’t be afraid to seek it out. If you decide that you need to seek professional help with marriage problems, then you can learn some techniques to cope with your stress and frustration.

I sincerely hope that you can pull through this stressful time in your marriage. I promise that it will be well worth it in the long run. If you really want help with marriage problems, the I highly recommend you get the book call “Save the Marriage”, just click here to get help right now.

One common problem is that when the relationship starts to cool a little bit women will generally fall into one of two categories: they will either try to ‘prove’ that they love their husband in order to ‘make him love her’ again, or they will shut down emotionally to protect themselves from the hurt that they think is inevitable.

If you do the first one, and try to ‘prove’ your love to your husband you will likely come off as needy, clingy, and insecure. Most men do not find a door mat attractive. The more you do this, the more he will withdraw, and the more you’ll try to prove your love. It becomes a vicious circle.

If you shut down because you feel like your husband doesn’t love you anymore, he will sense your coolness and do the same. This too can become a vicious circle.

Understanding this is the first step to reversing it. It’s so easy to get caught up in this cycle, and you might both feel neglected, unloved, and confused, but until you understand it you can’t fix it.

One of the first things you can do to get back some of the closeness and affection you used to feel in your marriage is return to the person you were when the two of you first got married. Instead of being a clingy, insecure woman turn back into the smart confidant women who he fell in love with.

When you do that the ice should start to thaw naturally and he will more than likely return to the same person he was. And if he doesn’t, you can start a conversation and try to figure out what else may be going on.

The problems in most marriages stem from simple misunderstandings, which lead to hurt, anger, and resentment. If you can stop this cycle from getting worse then you can fix your marriage and you won’t have to wonder: how to get my husband to love me again.

1. The first thing you have got to do is be an adult. This may sound like silly advice but the truth is that when we are hurting we can do and say some really dumb things. Don’t lash out in anger or in pain, get your emotions in check before you try to reach out to your ex.

2. Remind your wife of the person she fell in love with. Go out to the places you used to go and do the things you used to do when the two of you first met. It’s very common that when a relationship goes on for a long time, things can get stale, remind her of why she fell in love with you in the first place.

3. Show her, through your actions, that you are willing to make changes. She has no doubt heard it all before and talk is cheap, so now it’s time to put your money where your mouth is.

For many, that means doing something different such as be willing to go to a counselor. If you were reluctant to do that before she will see that you are serious if you agree to it now. (Just make sure if you agree to go that you take it seriously and really try, she won’t be impressed with more broken and empty promises).

These tips are a good place to start and will show you how to get your wife back. Everyone and every situation is different and only you and your wife know what went wrong, but if you are willing to be open and honest, and use these tips, you have a chance to make things right again.

If you want to really get your wife back, I recommend that you get The Magic of Making Up as soon as possible. You really need to check it out.

1. Don’t be desperate. Stop calling him and crying all the time. That just makes you seem needy and lets him think he’s better off without all the drama. Instead wait a week or so. Use that time as a chance to get your feet back under you so that when the two of you do talk you can say your peace without being angry and upset.

2. Try to figure out what the problem with the relationship was, more than likely you both share in the blame. Take ownership of the part you played and try to change the behavior that you don’t like and that caused some of the problems.

3. After a week or two has gone by, and he’s had plenty of time to miss you, and you’ve had plenty of time to take a hard look at yourself, call him and invite him to meet. More than likely he’ll say yes.

When the two of you meet it’s important to stop the accusing wasteful ways you used to communicate and start really talking, and listening, to each other. Try to calmly explain that you realize you made some mistakes and you’re willing to work on fixing them. If he still cares about you, he’ll likely admit he made some mistakes too, and once you’ve gotten to that point, you’ll have a real shot at a reconciliation.

One of the best things you can do if you want to win back your husband is to be yourself, the woman he fell in love with in the beginning. Don’t be a clingy, needy, or angry woman, instead be a strong, competent, smart woman. Let him see what he’s been missing. If both of you are willing to work together to make things better you can not only save your marriage, but improve it as well.

One of the best books on how to get back together is called “The Magic Of Making Up” by TW Jackson. If you are serious about getting back together, you’ve got to at least check this out.

Fear of intimacy is often based upon a painful or traumatic experience from our past. Regardless of the reason, the fear is real and you can overcome it. While we all wish we grew up in great homes with parents who loved each other, the idea is a bit unrealistic. Most people had at least some degree of dysfunction in their families as they grew up. There may also be some other issue more severe such as abuse that can trigger fear of intimacy. Regardless of the trauma we had as children, facing those fears is going to be tough without a significant amount of trust in your spouse, and a significant amount of time to work through it. If you want your marriage to work, you must be very patient on this one.

Another possibility is the image we have of your own body. Since we live with our body 24 hours a day, seven days a week, we tend of find all the imperfections that we have. Then we think that our spouse can see all the same imperfections. If you have ever made anything that took any length of time, like a craft project, a video production, or a wood working project, you can recognize that at the end of the project all you see are the mistakes that you made. I find that when I show my finished product to my wife, that she only sees the big picture of the project and she really can’t see all the mistakes that I can see. This is the mindset we should be in when it comes to our own bodies. We may know of all the problems, but in general, our spouse will just see the big picture and ignore the details. If this is a problem for you, then try keeping all the lights off during intimacy. Again, this is going to be a trust issue.

Why do I need to deal with this now? For one thing, when we have fear of intimacy, we tend to be more lonely and disconnected. Since there amount of experimentation is not happening, our intimate lives get boring and burdensome. Having this fear is really just an outward expression of a fear of being hurt or a fear of not being loved. Most of us can deal with the loneliness for a while, but no one has unlimited patience, and eventually our marriage will end without doing our best to overcome this fear.

Sometimes we need a little extra help. One resource that you might find helpful is to check out Mort Fertel’s e-mail series. Sign up for his free e-mail series, and you can get a lot of great advice.

Just remember that this is going to be a long road because this is a problem that took years to develop and it will take time to resolve. I know that you can do it though. Just don’t give up!

Again, check out Fitness for Marriage with Mort Fertel by clicking this text. The e-mail course is free.

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The first way to keep your marriage strong and healthy is to pray together often. Set some time each day for prayer. If you are having difficulty, then you are probably not going to feel like praying, but you must humble yourself and get on your knees, even if your spouse will not pray with you. We tend to pray often when things are going well, but sometimes we get a little upset with God and stop praying. That is a dangerous place to be, because you need Him.

Keep the romance alive. While we are single, we tend to put on our best face while dating. We dress up nice, shower, brush our teeth, do our hair, and otherwise make ourselves presentable to our out dates so that they will think highly of us. After we get married, we tend to forget about doing the nice things together that we used to do while we were dating. My biggest problem is that I get so busy with life that I just forget to do nice things for her. So stop reading right now and call or text your spouse and let them know you love them. Now if you really want to be spontaneous, set an alarm on your phone to remind you to do something nice next Thursday at 2pm. You’ll be reminded to do something nice and your spouse will think it was out of the blue.

Serve each other. Do you get that really good feeling of self satisfaction when you help someone? I do, and the bible teaches us to serve each other. “But do not use your freedom to indulge the sinful nature; rather, serve one another in love.” Galatians 5:13 When we serve our spouse, we feel good, and when they serve us, they feel good. So if we could serve each other, then we would have a remarkable marriage. Now I realize that this is easier said than done, but every effort you make, every little thing you do helps.

Get away ever once in a while. This is a hard one to do. Sometimes the commitments that we have keep us so busy that we don’t have time to get away. Other times, we may want to but the money is tight and we just can’t afford anything major. My advice is to make a point of getting away, even for just an afternoon or evening. And when you get away, make sure that you spend time talking. Don’t just go to the movie and then come home – that doesn’t count. Remember, you used to dress up fancy and impressed each other. Well do it again.

Hopefully you have gotten some good Christian marriage advice with this article. It is worth it to stay together, even if you don’t think so. Now I’m sending my wife a text, you do the same.

Like I said earlier, if you need a little more help, I highly recommend “Saving Your Christian Marriage.” It could change your whole life. Just click this text right now!

Having a good marriage is one of the best things in life, but setting out to fix your marriage is about the hardest thing a couple can do.  We have this tendancy to blame the other person and want them to change. Having said that, fixing a marriage is worth all the effort and pain.

I’m sure that you have heared it before, and indeed I have said the same thing elsewhere on this site, but communication in marriage is the critical first step. And when I say communication, I don’t mean just talking. Anyone can talk, but it takes a great deal of effort to communicate, exspecially when your emotions are high and your emotionally exhausted. Set an appointment to get away from your normal surroundings and spend some quality time with your spouse. I’m sure that your life is busy like everyone else, and if you don’t set an appointment, then it will never happen. The time to try to communicate is not when you are angry or hurt or frustrated, rather, when you aren’t emotionally charged.

If you think you need extra help, my friend Mort Fertel has some great programs that you can use online. Just click here to see if we can get you back to a happy marriage today!

I’ve found that not many people today think that fixing a marriage is worth it. It seems we have evolved into a society that is self absorbed and unwilling to accept that we might have to give a little. I promise that people who never give and never happy. So if you are looking for a happy marriage, then it will be a marriage in which you are giving, probably a lot more than you think you want. But it is critical that you understand this principle.

Another important step to fix your marriage is learning to let go, leave the past in the past. We all make mistakes and dredging up all the issue of the past will never get you to the future you are looking for. A marriage that needs to be fixed does not have to end in divorce because there are usually ways to fix marital problems. But I should warn you, that you absolutely cannot fix your marriage by going outside the marriage.

I also have another warning. It seems that there is a trend of thinking that the way to fix marital problems is to have children. Unless your primary marital problem is infertility, this will only make things worse, because the problems you have now will not magically go away when you have children. And you will have a bunch of new problems on top. Don’t get me wrong, having children is a natural extension of marriage and they will bring a log of joy to your life. But if you don’t have your house in order, none of that will matter, because you will be divorced by then.

Most marital problems are typical, and frankly they are usually also solvable. However, marital problems are too dangerous to ignore, and just waiting for a resolution without actively seeking one is going make it worse. It’s a little like cancer; if you catch it early, you have a higher likelihood of fixing your marriage.  The longer you let things fester, the harder it becomes to fix your marriage.

Like I said earlier, if you are ready to get the help you deserve, check out my friend Mort Fertel.